Yesterday I talked a little bit about why it’s so important NOT to do something if you can’t do it fully. Simply put, doing something with a negative or resisting energy (to put it in hippie-terminology!) taints everything it touches. That includes giving head!

So how do give head like you’re enjoying it? Easiest way and most consistent way, believe it or not, is to enjoy giving head.

“But Patrick, what if I don’t?”, I hear you moan.

We can fix that!

In the end, when you boil it down, enjoying something consists of three different parts, all which are in your control.

1. Remove any thing that stops you from enjoying yourself. If your man has a smelly dick or way too much hair down there, tell him so. Most guys have no problem cleaning up down there if you make them realize it bothers you. Besides, they’re getting a big return on it!
2. Bring everything you’ve got to the table. What we invest in, we enjoy. If you bring 100% of yourself to the table, if you invest a hundred percent of your attention in what you are doing, you are almost BOUND to enjoy yourself sooner or later. Once you really realize this, it can change your life.
3. Focus on what you like about giving head. Don’t you love the way his cock fills your mouth? Or how exciting it is to be in total control of his most prized possession? Or how you can make him twist and turn and moan with a flick of your tongue? The last but definitely not least part of enjoying yourself is to start focusing on what you like about it rather than what you don’t like. If you focus on the negatives, then it becomes work. If you look at the positives, it becomes play.

In the next part of this series, I’m going to give you some more blowjob tips on how you can make giving head more fun for YOURSELF!