Reading up on how to give a blowjob is a great idea since it can give you general direction to what you want to do.
But in order to get really good at giving head, you need to practice and get feedback.
And since all guys are different and enjoy different types of stimulation, that feedback is worth it’s weight in gold.
A great way to know if you’re moving in the right direction is simply to ask your man for comments.
Don’t make the questions too big, keep it simple like: “Do you prefer when I do this, or when I did that? ” or “Does this feel good?”.
Also, don’t swamp him with questions either. He wants a blowjob, not to conduct a survey. If you ask too many questions the whole thing will start to feel mechanic.
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One of the best things about blowjob is that there’s really no bad time for a blowjob.
While he might need to be in the mood to have sex, to get a blowjob he just needs to be breathing.
Use that fact and give him a blowjob when he’s least expecting it. Maybe just as he’s walking through the door after a long day at work or just after dinner when you “accidentally” drop something under the dinner tabe.
Use your imagination!
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March 14th is the official “Steak and Blowjob Day”. It’s pretty self explanatory. It’s been called the “Valentine’s Day for Men”.
Basically, it’s a day where you give your man a steak and a blowjob; the two things a stereotype man loves the most.
Now, if you missed the official steak and blowjob day, there’s no need to sweat it; just pick a day and surprise your man. He’ll definitely appreciate it.
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While oral sex and blowjobs are much safer than both vaginal and anal sex and the fact that most STDs are either unable or have trouble transmitting through oral sex, it’s still possible to contract an STD (sexually transmitted disease) , STI (sexually transmitted infection) or VD (veneral disease).
While both chlamydia and HIV can be transmitted through oral sex, the risk of them doing so are very low compared to vaginal sex.
The diseases that you “need” to worry about are genital herpes, gonorrhea and genital warts.
They’ve shown that swallowing semen slightly elevates the risk of contracting an STD, but it’s not something you need to worry about. Swallowing semen is however completely safe if your man is healthy.
If you have a single steady partner then you probably don’t need to worry about this; but just to be on the safe side, I suggest you both go and get checked out before doing anything.
There are a couple of classic blowjob positions that you can use when you want to give your man head. In this post I’ll go through the top 5 positions.
- The Classic 69. In this positions you’ll lie on your as your partner stands on all four on top of you with his cock over your head and his head over your genitals. Great double action.
- The Star 69. Similar to the Classic 69, but instead of just laying flat on the bed, you push your legs back so your man can get full access to the whole area. If your man is feeling bold, he can do this as well.
- Standing Up. Another good classic is when the man is standing up and you’re on your knees while giving him a blowjob. This is good for two reasons; primarily, he’ll be able to watch, but also the standing up increases the blood flow to his genitals.
- The Dangler. A great blowjob position to use if you’re trying to learn how to deep throat. You lie on the bed with your head just dangling outside the bed Your man then stands right in front of your face and thrusts himself into you.
- You Kneeling, Him Sitting. He Sits down on a chair while you kneel down on the floor and start giving him a blowjob. This is a great blowjob positions since he can just sit back and enjoy the ride.
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A blowjob tip I’ve shared with you many times before is the fact that a man’s biggest erogenous zone is his mind.
The more you try to get his fantasy going and try to heighten his expectations, the more he’s going to enjoy whatever comes next.
That’s the main reason why dirty talking is such a great technique for really blowing his mind.
Dirty talking in it self is an art-form; it’s nothing you can teach in just a minute or so. But with just a few tips you can start practicing on your own!
- Take It Slowly. Don’t rush yourself. Remember, you’re not communicating because you need to get some information through; you’re communicating because you want to get him heated up, so take it slowly.
- Let Him Know What You’re Going to Do. If you can’t come up with anything sexy to tell him; just tell him what you want to do to him with a sexy voice.
- Fantasize and Exaggerate. Even though letting him know in advance what you’re going to do with him is a great tip, you can always take it another level and just tell him things that are sexy. Most of the times, he’s not going to expect you to do all the things you talked about, so just go wild.
- Roleplay. This, also, is an art-form. But roleplaying is a great way to push your sexual relationship to another level. How about pretending you’re a student and he’s a teacher. Or the other way around? Be creative and find something that works for you.
- Remember: Dirty talking is Only Going To Take Him So Far. Sure. Dirty talking can be an extreme turn on. But sooner or later, you’re going to get to a point where physical stimulation is the only thing that matters. Just go with the flow when that happens and let the words translate into action. For more tips on that, check out the article on blowjob tips.
Something that I didn’t mention in my beginners guide on how to give a blowjob was that you should be aware that his balls are super sensitive.
I’m saying this because when you’re lying there, at least in the beginning, you’re going to be fidgeting and turning around trying to find the best position to blow his mind.
In such a situation, it’s easy to misplace an elbow or to support your body with one of your hands in the wrong place.
Now, he’ll definitely let you know that something is wrong so you don’t have to worry that he’ll keep it to himself. But pain streaming out of his testicular area can be a major turn off for most men.
It’s not that they don’t want to be sexual mentally, it’s just that the pain pulsating through their groin is ten times as “loud” as everything else.
In the last post I talked a little about why you should never use your teeth when you give a blowjob.
This is of course a truth with a modification; there’s actually a time and place for using your teeth as well, but if you’re new to giving head then don’t even worry about this as it will only confuse you.
In any case, here’s how to give a blowjob with teeth:
- First you need to get him properly heated up before you do this. Do whatever you normally do to get him going (Inspiration: How To Give Great Head).
- When he has properly heated up, hold your head just above the head of his penis. Put your teeth over his head and slowly open your mouth and let his penis slide into your mouth. Slowly open up your mouth more and more as you go over his penis.
- You want this sliding to be a SLIGHT GRAZE not a FULL ON SCRAPE. Also, make sure you properly lubricate to avoid any unnecessary wearing and tearing.
A mistake that I keep hammering on over and over again is the fact that you should never use your teeth during a blowjob. His penis is really sensitive and with the repetetive motion that you do during a blowjob, even the smallest graze quickly becomes a source of great discomfort.
The easiest way to rid yourself of this problem is just to tuck your teeth in under your lips. The problem is not to tuck them in, but rather to remember to keep them there during the whole blowjob. It’s easy to forget after a few moments why you’re doing it, but as with everything practice gives experience.
And I know some of you are going “But I’ve heard some guys like it when you use your teeth”. That’s a completely different thing; using your teeth as a conscious blowjob technique is definitely not the same thing as unconsciously grinding over his cock.
But more on this in the next post.
Another thing that women usually forget, especially those who are just learning how to give head, is that his balls are EXTREMELY sensitive.
Now, this can be either good news or bad news. It’s good news if you decide to play with them as well. They like being kissed, licked and played with. They enjoy the stimulation, and he’ll enjoy it as well. There are some great blowjob techniques you can use for this.
It’s bad news if you forget the fact that they’re *super sensitive* and accidentally crush them with your elbow or something.
It’s a typical rookie mistake, so make sure you dont do it when you’re trying to give the guy good head.
