So here’s the tip: After you’ve heated him up properly and you’ve already started giving him head, use your index finger and middle finger to find his PERINEUM. His perineum is a soft, fleshy part underneath his testicles, right between his ball sack and his anus.

Once you find it start massaging it FIRMLY while you keep giving him head. A fair warning: Don’t be surprised if this sends him completely OVER THE TOP… It’s ridiculously effective!

As the night progressed, everyone at the party was starting to get a little tipsy, including me and my girlfriend. Suddenly, she grabbed my hand and lead me upstairs in the old villa where the party was held. She checked right and left and when she saw that no one was there, she pulled me into the bathroom.

There she went down on her knees, ripped up my belt and proceeded to give me the best blowjob I’ve ever had. Why was it so great? Here are something you can learn on how to give head from “Lucy”.

• “Head” is a dish best served by surprise. Now, don’t get me wrong, giving head in the bed is also fantastic, but giving him a blowjob when he’s LEAST expecting it will feel that much more worth it. Just ask yourself, if your boyfriend bought you a diamond necklace for your birthday, that would be fantastic right? But if your boyfriend just bought you a diamond necklace on any random day, just because he loved you so much, wouldn’t that be that much more special?
• Confidence is super attractive. Another thing that Lucy did 100% right is that she had the confidence and the courage to take the bull by the horn(s) (pun intended!). Some relationships have almost hardwired roles where one partner is the dominant one and the other is the submissive one. Those are good. But I have some news for you: the best relationships are NEVER hard wired. They always keep changing. Sometimes he seduces you, sometimes you seduce him. That’s how you keep things FRESH and EXCITING month after month.
• She KNEW what she was doing. One of the best things about Lucy was that our communication about sex was so open. You know how hard it can feel to talk with someone your sleeping with about sex? Maybe it’s because you don’t want to seem like you don’t know, or maybe you don’t want to step on their toes, but whatever it is, it’s completely counter-productive. Me and Lucy had NONE of that. I taught her everything I knew and she too taught me a thing or two.

If you also want to learn how to give great head check out the guide on this blog, or even better, check out the Great Head Guide. You can thank me later!!

I like to call it “the only way to get your man going before you even get going” (I’m really on a run with my phrasings today!). Basically, it will help you out, whatever it is your doing, by a multiple. That is, even if you’re doing some really lame, counter-productive techniques that men are actually embarrassed to tell their friends about, you’ll make them at least TWICE as good with proper foreplay.

So what is proper foreplay? Foreplay is really all about letting your partners mind run ahead of the actual physical stimulation. That “gap” will then create an enormous lust and excitement within him. In other words: you want to make him think dirty thoughts, but not actually get them realized.

With that great definition, if I may say so myself, how do you do great foreplay?

There are many different ways to attack this problem as long as you keep the purpose of it in the back of your head. Biting, kissing, tugging and pulling everything on his body except for the most sensitive parts (his genital area!) will get him going.

Something to think about is to do everything as LIGHT and as SLOW as humanly possible. That is, you don’t want to place the whole of your hand and FIRMLY RUB HIS STOMACHE IN A RAPID SUCCESSION. No, doing that would probably make him need to visit the bathroom.

A better way to go about it would be to use the TIPS of your fingers and run them across the side of his chest ever so lightly, and do so slowly that you’re almost going backwards. That really captures the essence of what you’re trying to accomplish: letting his MIND wander ahead of the actual PHYSICAL stimulation.

So in you need to keep three things in your head: first is the right MINDSET which is to trigger his MIND with minimal stimulation to his PHYSICAL BODY. The second part is  to keep every physical stimulation as LIGHT as possible. Last but definitely not least do everything as SLOW as possible. Remember, slow IS sexy.

Now great foreplay is a fantastic way to boost your performance, but make sure you already have a firm grip on how to give head, or else you might not get him where you’re trying to take him…

The more you try to get his fantasy going and try to heighten his expectations, the more he’s going to enjoy whatever comes next.

That’s the main reason why dirty talking is such a great technique for really blowing his mind.

Dirty talking in it self is an art-form; it’s nothing you can teach in just a minute or so. But with just a few tips you can start practicing on your own!

• Take It Slowly. Don’t rush yourself. Remember, you’re not communicating because you need to get some information through; you’re communicating because you want to get him heated up, so take it slowly.
• Let Him Know What You’re Going to Do. If you can’t come up with anything sexy to tell him; just tell him what you want to do to him with a sexy voice.
• Fantasize and Exaggerate. Even though letting him know in advance what you’re going to do with him is a great tip, you can always take it another level and just tell him things that are sexy. Most of the times, he’s not going to expect you to do all the things you talked about, so just go wild.
• Roleplay. This, also, is an art-form. But roleplaying is a great way to push your sexual relationship to another level. How about pretending you’re a student and he’s a teacher. Or the other way around? Be creative and find something that works for you.
• Remember: Dirty talking is Only Going To Take Him So Far. Sure. Dirty talking can be an extreme turn on. But sooner or later, you’re going to get to a point where physical stimulation is the only thing that matters. Just go with the flow when that happens and let the words translate into action. For more tips on that, check out the article on blowjob tips.

A problem with deep throating has been that people start trying to do it too early on. While it should be considered to be an “advanced” technique, some young females feel the pressure to perform and sort of mentally burn them selves out.

If you’re new to oral sex and haven’t really learned how to give a blowjob yet, then I suggest you check out our blowjob guide, the list of blowjob tips and blowjob techniques first as they contain a whole bunch of great info for you to get started with.

In this guide I’m going to go through the A to Z of how to deep throat.

How To Deep Throat: Learning Not To Gag

The biggest part of learning how to deep throat is learning not to gag. While this may seem easy, it’s really a skill that needs to be worked on before you actually become good at it.

The main part of unlearning the gag-reflex is to apply will power. If you just keep working on it then eventually it will let go. But that’s not very helpful; so I’m going to share with you two of my favourite tips on getting over the gag reflex.

1. Start Swallowing When You Feel The Gag Reflex. When I say “start swallowing” what I mean is, start making the same motions as you would when you’re about to swallow something. This will alleviate a part of the gag-sensation.
2. Pull Him In With Your Tongue. The second tip I wanted to share with you is to pull him in with your tongue. specifically, when you have him inside you and you feel you can’t take him in further, just extend your tongue and pretend like you’re pulling him further in with your tongue. This is good for two reasons; it will get into your head (power of attraction!) but also, the movement actually opens up your throat and will make it easier for him to slide into your throat.
3. Take It Slowly. Don’t rush yourself; learning how to deep throat takes time. The biggest mistake most women do when it comes to deep throating is that they rush themselves into it. Some have seen pornographic videos or have boyfriends that are overly eager and get persuaded that “that’s how it’s done”. It’s not. Don’t aim to perform like a pornstar the first, second or even the tenth time you’re deep throating; you’ll just end up hurting yourself!

This is a work in project. I’ll be adding more and more stuff as we go. If you’re looking for some general info, check out the guide on how to give a blowjob.

That is exactly why I’ve written this article. I’ve already written a great introductory article on how to give great head and list of great techniques for a blowjob but in this article I wanted to focus on some concerns you might have when you’re just starting out.

What If I Don’t Like The Taste Or Smell?
Just like women, men will both taste and smell a little more if they haven’t showered in a while. So if you’re sensitive to that kind of thing, you could always ask your man to clean up a little before you get jiggy with it.

What Do I Do With His Sperm?

The next common concern a lot of “newbies” have is that they’re almost a little worried about what they’re supposed to do with the semen.

If you’ve never tasted semen, it’s got a pretty neutral but at the same time a very distinct, salty taste. Most women that don’t like semen don’t actually complain about the taste but rather about the consistency of it. Depending on what type of diet your man follows and how much fluids he takes in on a daily basis, his load can be more or less viscous. Here’s a little information on swallowing semen.

Beginner’s Guide to Giving a Blowjob

I know a lot of you are new to this, so I’m going to give you a basic run through on how to give a blowjob. If you want more detailed info, check out the guide on how to give head, as well as the list of blowjob tips and techniques.

1. Study up. Reading this guide as well as some of the other guides on this site will give you a better understanding of what to do, and more importantly How to do it. It will help you smooth out the whole process as well as give you some guidance. If nothing else, it’s a great source of inspiration…
2. Get Comfortable. A sore neck is never a turn on. When you’re going to give him head, make sure you find a good position for you both. The best positions for giving head include
   • Him lying on his back, you lying in between his legs. This is a good position as he’ll be able to relax completely, as well as letting you control the package all for yourself.
   • Him standing up / sitting in a chair, you on your knees. Even though he might not be able to relax as much, this is a great position for him since he’ll be able to to watch you while you work (guy’s love to watch).
3. Start Him Up. Sometimes just “jumping” on him can be nice. But for a better effect, I suggest you start out slowly and let him enjoy himself. It’s like warming up before going out to run. Of course you can start running right away, but it’s going to feel much better if you start slowly. Kiss him, lick him and tug him all around his body, get the juices flowing.
4. Open Your Mouth. Slide your lips over you teeth to avoid painful contact. Make sure you lubricate his cock properly with your saliva as it will feel great for him, and it will alleviate any type of scuffing later on when you get your hands dirty. Slide over his cock.
5. Be Imaginative. Giving a great blowjob is more than just going up and down repeatedly. Experiment a little; there are a lot of different ways to stimulate your man. Kiss, lick, tug, pull, bite (cautiously though); try it all out. Just remember to keep checking his body language for signs to show if he’s enjoying himself or not.
6. Hands On. By gripping his *lubed up* (remeber this, otherwise you’ll end up wearing him out) manhood with your hand, you can give him loads more pleasure and take some of the weight off of your mouth. Wrap it around his cock and let your hand follow your mouth. Your mouth can now focus on more important things, the head of his penis for instance.
7. Finish the Job. Ultimately, it’s your decision whether or not you want to swallow his load. Some women do it without even thinking about it, others cringe at the mere thought. In the end, just do what you’re most comfortable with. The amount is small, only a teaspoon or so, so it shouldn’t be that big of a problem. Whatever you do, just don’t stop midway.

Deep-Throating, What’s That?

For those of you who are new to this, deep-throating is when you take your man’s cock all the way into your mouth. It is called deep throating because anatomically speaking, unless your man is cursed in that department, you can’t fit the whole length of his penis in just your mouth but you will need to open up your throat and allow him to enter there.

It sounds more dramatic than it is, but if oral sex is new to you, I suggest you ignore deep-throating for now and just focus on doing all of the other things that make a blowjob great.

These are some of my favourite blowjob tips. Enjoy!

8 Great Blowjob Tips

1. Avoiding a Sore Jaw. A problem many fellatrices have when giving head, especially when they’re just starting out, is that they very quickly get a sore jaw. This soreness comes from using their jaw to create the “pressure” that feels so good for the man. But here’s the kicker: You Don’t Need To Use Your Jaw To Create The Pressure! If you just wet the palm of your hand properly and wrap it around his penis, then you can alleviate your jaw. And I bet your hand can hold a firm grip a lot longer than your mouth can.
2. Foreplay Is Sexy. I think foreplay is a little bit of a lost art. Some women even think that guys don’t enjoy foreplay. But they do; I mean, how could they not? It’s in our human nature. The more you tease each other before actually starting with the sexual act, the better the sexual act will be. Enough said.
3. Stimulate All of His Senses. It’s easy to get tunnel vision when giving head. Your head might be all focused on “what techniques to use” or “how to use your hands”. And that is all fine and well. But remember one thing: A man’s biggest erogenous zone is in his mind. That means that if you really want to get him going, you need to stimulate ALL of his senses, and not only his kinetic sense. Sound, Sight, Smell and even Taste are all great gateways to pleasure.
4. Make Sure You Lubricate. Sexual stimulation comes from friction. This is a fact. When giving a blowjob, the pressure you create while going over his cock is what feels good for him. But something you should be aware of is that this motion also wears him out somewhat. If you go too hard, or for too long, you’ll eventually scuff his penis. To avoid those adverse effects, remember to lubricate his penis properly. It doesn’t matter if it’s saliva or if it’s professional lube; just make sure you wet it up. Everything you do after that point will feel a tonne better.
5. Change Your Routine. When we find something that works in a favorable way, we usually tend to stick to it. All people are like this. We’re simply creatures of habit. But the problem with it that if you’re giving him a blowjob and you find something that seems like it’s really pushing his buttons, if you keep doing that same thing, it’s not going to feel as good as it did initially. So change up your routine and keep it interesting and fresh.
6. Decide If You’re Going To Swallow Beforehand. Now I know there are some of you who are not too fond of the idea of swallowing. That is all fine and well. Some of you don’t like it but could still be convinced to do it. Whatever your attitude is towards swallowing, make sure you’ve already decided what you’re going to do before you actually give him a blowjob. If you don’t, chances are good you’re whole “routine” will fizzle out just when he’s about to climax.
7. Give a Blowjob Because You Want To. The last tip I wanted to share with you today is something that I think is superimportant. Never give a blowjob because you think you “should” or because you think you “have to”. Because you’re not forced, in any way. And if you go in with that type of attitude, he’s going to know. And he’s not going to enjoy himself as much. So do both yourself and him a favor. Only do what you’re comfortable with doing!
8. Don’t Use Your Teeth. The most common mistake women do is that they use their teeth too much. Most of the time, it’s not even conscious, it’s just the result of them not thinking about tucking them in. Here’s a fact: his penis doesn’t get a long that well with your sharp teeth. To remove the risk of getting scuff marks on his penis, make sure you tuck your teeth in under your lips!

If you have any tips that I haven’t included here, just leave a comment below and I’ll add them to the list!

Many women think that giving a head is only about what “techniques” you use. And that’s natural of course; it’s much easier to explain to someone What to do rather than How to do it. Let me explain.

The brain is a mans biggest erogenous zone. No, I’m not bullshitting you. While your technique will definitely play a big role in what you’re doing; if you want to learn how to give great head, you also need to learn how to stimulate his mind.

There are a couple of things that you should keep in mind, but since I know you’re just waiting for the “fantastic blowjob techniques“, I’ll just give you the best tip I can give you: Enjoy Yourself.

There’s NOTHING more universally attractive than a woman who’s enjoying herself. This, of course, applies to when you’re giving head as well! Make sure you enjoy yourself and make sure he knows that you’re enjoying yourself. It will definitely be a super-turn-on for him.

Don’t Skimp On The Foreplay

Another thing that most women get wrong is that guys don’t like foreplay. I guess it’s all that television that portrays most guys as these macho brutes that just want to “bone”. It’s not true though. It’s in our human nature to enjoy foreplay.

Anyone of you that has ever had a session of really good foreplay knows how incredibly erotic and stimulating it can be. An analogy I like to share when talking about foreplay is that the whole sexual act can be compared to a rubber band.

Foreplay is like taking that rubber band and stretching it out, adding more and more tension to it. At last when you decide to let the rubber band go, the release will be much stronger than if you didn’t pull it out.

Since I’ve already started out with only giving you the best-of-the-best of my tips, I might as well continue here:

The Secret To Great Foreplay Is This:

• Two Steps Forward / One Step Back. You have to try this out for yourself. It’s blows my mind how simple but still so effective this is. The easiest way to explain is by giving you an example:So if you want to give him head, you might start kissing his chest, moving down towards his stomach and then his groin. But then, instead of doing the “predictable” thing – continuing towards his cock, you stop and go back to his stomach.Two Steps Forward, One Step Back. Do this enough and you’ll drive him crazy before you even start giving him head!

Blowjob Techniques

I KNOW you’ve been dying to read these. “WHERE ARE THE TECHNIQUES!??” I hear you ask yourself. We’re finally here

Here are some of my favorite tips and tricks when it comes to giving great head:

• Use Your Hands. Some people think that if you’re using your hand you’re not giving a “real” blowjob. That’s completely crazy. I’d like to say that if you’re not using your hands, you’re not giving a proper blowjob. You can create a lot more stimulation and pleasure for your man by using your hand combined with your mouth than you can by just using your mouth. Also, it gives you another tool to keep experimenting with to keep things fresh.
• Massage His Balls. It’s easy to think that a blowjob is just about his penis and your mouth. In the first tip, I made it clear that you should be using your hands as well. Here, I want to tell you not to just focus on his penis. His testicles are also really sensitive and if you play with them a little as well, it can add another dimension to what your doing.
• Play With All Of His Body. Taking the last tip a step further, don’t restrict yourself to just his scrotum. It’s been said that the whole body is one giant erogenous zone. Give him a backrub, run your hands over his chest or his stomach, kiss his thighs and nibble on his nipples. Don’t forget that he’s more than just a penis.
• Massage The Magic Spot. This is a personal favourite of mine. “The Magic Spot” is a fleshy spot located just underneath his balls, about halfway in between his anus and the root of his penis. Massage him there firmly with either two of your fingers or if you’re feeling bold, with the tip of your tongue, while you keep jerking him off. It will feel absolutely amazing for him.
• Take His Hand. Learning how to give head is not just about learning the right “techniques” for the physical stimulation. Blowjobs, as every other type of sexual activity, consists also in large of a psychological aspect. Most men will enjoy it if you take his hand and place it on top of your head or on your chest as it displays that you’re really into what you’re doing, which heats him up even more.
• Lick Your Way to The Top. This is one is one of my favourite blowjob tips. Start at the root of his penis, or even below his balls if you want, and *slowly* start licking your way up the shaft of his penis. When you eventually reach the top of his shaft completely swallow his manhood. He. Will. EXPLODE!
• Look Him In The Eyes. The last tip I wanted to offer you is quite simple, but it’s something that again shows that learning how to give great head is not just about physical stimulation; it’s about simulating his mind. Guys love to watch while you’re giving him head, so if you once in a while give him long, horny stares, you’ll really push his buttons.
• Deep Throat. This is a easy technique to explain but a difficult one to master. Essentially, you unlearn the gag-reflex and allow your man to slide into your throat. Check out this excellent article on how to deep throat for more information.

A piece of general advice I like to give out to everyone that asks me for help is to make sure you lubricate his cock properly. All of these techniques will feel great for him, but they’ll feel even better if you’ve lubricated before you start; partly because it adds another level of sensation but partly because it reduces the amount of wear and tear on his penis. This is especially important if you’re using your hands to stimulate him (which you should).

These 7 Blowjob Techniques are some of my favorite. Of course, I have a lot more of these to share, but for now these will get you started.

Blowjob Positions

Sometimes it’s a good idea to switch the position. Different blowjob positions will give him different sensations as well as stimulating his mind. Variation is always good. A couple of positions you can try out is the Powerpose, the Dangler and the Throne. More information on these will follow the next few days, but just keep that in mind: Not only the techniques themselves will dictate how it feels but also in WHAT position you’re doing these techniques!

End Game

Is that all? No, not quite. To finish this mini-guide on how to give amazing head, we need to talk a little bit about “the end game”, ie, what you’re supposed to do when he’s about to cum.

Basically, here’s what you do:

• Don’t Slow Down! There are many good periods during a blowjob when it can be beneficial if you change the pace, maybe do whatever it is you’re doing a little slower and generally “tease” him a little bit. When he’s about to come however, there’s no space for that. Whatever you’re doing, keep doing it until he’s arrived. If anything, go faster and harder!
• Don’t Stop. When he’s cumming, a common mistake is to stop for whatever reason. Maybe you think he’s finished. But the truth is that if you keep going a little while, you can extend his pleasure and the length of his orgasm by a large bit.
• Then, Go Slower. The tip on going faster and harder is valid all through the period when he’s about to cum. But just when he’s in the process of cumming, there’s a specific time where if you slow down to an almost slow-motiony pace, you can significantly prolong his orgasm. How long into his ejaculation you slow down is different for all men, and would be pretty difficult to learn from reading it. Hands-on-experience and some good old fashioned trial and error is recommended. Usually it’s somewhere between 2-10 seconds after he started cumming.
• Swallow Or Don’t Swallow? Something that’s been a classic hot topic ever since oral sex became popularized in wester society is the debate of whether or not you should swallow or not swallow. I would say go either way; if you don’t mind then definitely swallow. If it’s very hard for you, at least let him come in your mouth and then afterwards just spit it out in a tissue or something.

After he’s shot his load, his penis is going to go into a hypersensitive state. Most men prefer that you don’t touch the penis, especially the head, when just after his ejaculation. If you do, it’s almost going to feel painful for him. However, if you don’t just want to stop cold, you can always cup his balls with your hands afterwards. It gives you both a small sense of closeness.

But even though I do all of this, and I know that you gals appreciate it, I know that most of you are looking for something else. You’re looking for the “Secret Blowjob Techniques“. You know, that single thing you can do to take his pleasure over the top.

If that sounds like you, then this post is specifically written for you. In it I’ve gathered some of the best blowjob techniques I know of. Some are super practical while some might only serve as inspiration. Enjoy.

Blowjob Techniques

• Lick A Lollipop. A great blowjob technique for you to use is to treat his cock as if it were a lollipop. Start at the base of his cock, and slowly lick your way to the top. Make sure you do it slowly; so he can really enjoy the sensations your inducing. When you finally reach the head of his cock, swallow as much of it as you can in one big gulp. Highly recommended.
• Suck On His Balls. In my ongoing campaign for body awareness, I always like to stress that his balls are super-sensitive spots that are just *DYING* to be stimulated. Just gently pop one of them (or if you’re feeling bold, both of them!) into your mouth and suck on them lightly.
• Stretch The Skin Out. This technique is not something I’d say is a “fantastic” blowjob technique, sensation-wise. But it is however a great technique to show off to your man that you know what you’re doing. Simply use either your fingers or your teeth to stretch out the skin of his ball sack. It has a very peculiar feeling to it that he’ll be sure to appreciate.
• Massage the Magic Spot. Another great blowjob technique. “The Magic Spot” as I like to call it, is a soft, fleshy spot just underneath a mans ballsack. You can stimulate it either with your fingers, or if you’re feeling a bit bold, use your tongue to do the same thing. You should know though that you need to be quite firm in your pressure here, so it can get tiring for the tongue to stay down there for too long. But on the other hand, he’s definitely going to appreciate it. Highly recommended.
• Flick His Head. Another fantastic blowjob technique is to flick his head. On the underside of his penis, right at the top where the shaft and the head connect, theres a spot which is *incredibly* sensitive. Use your tongue to flick that spot quickly over and over again and you’re bound to send him over the top in no time.
• The Rotating Hands. If you’re one of those gals that believe that you’re not supposed to use your hands when you’re giving a blowjob then I have two things to say to you… You’re wrong… And your man is missing out!! Try this: While you’re sucking his cock, wrap either one (or if your man is of the larger size… )
  or both of your hands around his cock. While going over his cock with your mouth, follow your mouth with your hands. At the same, while you’re going up and down with your hands, keep rotating them in different directions. WARNING: When You Start Doing This… He IS Going to Cum QUICKLY!
• Make a Ring Around His Base & The Magic Spot. At last I wanted to include a little “trick” for you to use when you feel like he’s about to cum. Just when he’s about to cum, create a tight little right with by pressing for index finger and your thumb together. Then, push this TIGHT little ring over his cock and keep it right at the base. At the same time, start massaging the Magic Spot HARD and Wait For The Fireworks. It’s a little complicated to get right, but once you do, you can prolong and extend his orgasm by more than even He thought was possible.
• Anal Stimulation. Depending on how confident your man is with his sexuality, he might enjoy stimulation to his anus. You never want to ask him outright how to do it as that will scare him off quickly. But if you slowly but progressively move your hand towards his anus and just let it rest there at first, you can ease him into it. Let it rest there for a moment and then slowly start massaging it. If he’s alright with that, you can even try pushing a lubed up finger into his ass.

One additional tip: If you want to increase the overall pleasure level of all of these techniques, make sure you lubricate his cock properly. The wetter the better!

These are just some of my best blowjob techniques to get you started. Of course, these are not all of them, but as I said, they’ll get you started. This list will also be continually updated and expanded over time. If you liked this list, then I know you’ll love the list of  blowjob tips I’ve written just for you.

It’s an easy question to answer.

You can’t.

Until mind-reading becomes a skill that anyone can learn, you can’t be absolutely certain what he thinks.

But he’s probably sending you some clues to whether he’s enjoying himself or not:

Likes:

• Clenching hist fist.
• Moaning
• His balls get tucked really closely in his groin
• Thrusting himself towards your mouth
• Proposing marriage (I joke, I joke)

Other than that, if you really want to know what he thinks, I suggest you just ask him. He might not tell you exactly what you’re doing right and wrong or recite an essay on how to give great head, but you’ll probably know if you’re at least going in the right direction.