So. The first tip I’m going to share with you today is a “teaser technique”, that is, it’s meant to heighten his anticipation to a level where he’ll almost beg you to suck him off.

The way I learned of this technique is actually that a girl actually did it to me! It was a girl I met a few years back. We had been seeing each other for a while then and things were going great. One morning, after she had spent the night at my place, she was heading to the office. As she was about to step out of the door, she knelt down on her knees, unbuttoned my pants and started giving me head, out of the blue.

Now, at first I wasn’t even considering sex because I had just woken up, but a few moments later, I was rock hard and all I wanted was her to keep doing what she was doing. So what happened?

She stopped giving me head, rose up and told me “I have to go to work now, have a nice day!”. I was perplexed! It was a quick turn, not thinking about sex at all to ONLY THINKING about sex. You bet I was already going when she came home that evening…

This tip is actually really easy. Whenever you feel like he’s enjoying it the most, stop. Tease him a little. He might not think he wants you to stop, but in the end he’s going to appreciate it that much more.

How do you have fun, doing anything?

Really it all boils down to where your focus lies. If you are always focusing on the negatives, then your experience will be a bad one. But if you instead focus on the positives, your experience becomes much more fun.

When it comes to giving head, if you have a tendency to focus on the negatives you might be thinking “Oh, when is he ever going to finish…”  or “I hate doing this, I just want to get it over with” or “This is boring”.

If that sounds similar to you, then what you can do is, when you get aware of those thoughts, is to replace them with more positive thoughts “Man, I love feeling his cock inside me, wherever it is!” or “He tastes so good!” or “I love feeling in complete control over my man”.

As with everything you do in life, there are always at least two different ways to look at something, and depending on which perspective you choose, you ARE going to have a different experience. It’s as simple as that!

How Can I Make This Fun?

Here’s a little bonus for you. I wasn’t actually going to include this at first, but I think this little nugget is so awesome that I wanted to share it with you before I pack up for the day.

Questions control our focus. If you ask yourself “Why is this so boring?” your mind will automatically throw out a thousand answers to why giving head is so boring. But this can also work in your favor: If you ask yourself “How can I make this fun?” which is a super-power-packed-question; your brain will throw out a bunch of ideas for how you can make it fun for YOU!

Maybe it’s teasing him till he almost explodes and then stopping?

Maybe it’s whispering dirty things in his ear and getting him all rallied up?

Or maybe it’s commanding him to do things in order for you to continue?

It’s up to you; how can you make it fun?

So how do give head like you’re enjoying it? Easiest way and most consistent way, believe it or not, is to enjoy giving head.

“But Patrick, what if I don’t?”, I hear you moan.

We can fix that!

In the end, when you boil it down, enjoying something consists of three different parts, all which are in your control.

1. Remove any thing that stops you from enjoying yourself. If your man has a smelly dick or way too much hair down there, tell him so. Most guys have no problem cleaning up down there if you make them realize it bothers you. Besides, they’re getting a big return on it!
2. Bring everything you’ve got to the table. What we invest in, we enjoy. If you bring 100% of yourself to the table, if you invest a hundred percent of your attention in what you are doing, you are almost BOUND to enjoy yourself sooner or later. Once you really realize this, it can change your life.
3. Focus on what you like about giving head. Don’t you love the way his cock fills your mouth? Or how exciting it is to be in total control of his most prized possession? Or how you can make him twist and turn and moan with a flick of your tongue? The last but definitely not least part of enjoying yourself is to start focusing on what you like about it rather than what you don’t like. If you focus on the negatives, then it becomes work. If you look at the positives, it becomes play.

In the next part of this series, I’m going to give you some more blowjob tips on how you can make giving head more fun for YOURSELF!

I like to call it “the only way to get your man going before you even get going” (I’m really on a run with my phrasings today!). Basically, it will help you out, whatever it is your doing, by a multiple. That is, even if you’re doing some really lame, counter-productive techniques that men are actually embarrassed to tell their friends about, you’ll make them at least TWICE as good with proper foreplay.

So what is proper foreplay? Foreplay is really all about letting your partners mind run ahead of the actual physical stimulation. That “gap” will then create an enormous lust and excitement within him. In other words: you want to make him think dirty thoughts, but not actually get them realized.

With that great definition, if I may say so myself, how do you do great foreplay?

There are many different ways to attack this problem as long as you keep the purpose of it in the back of your head. Biting, kissing, tugging and pulling everything on his body except for the most sensitive parts (his genital area!) will get him going.

Something to think about is to do everything as LIGHT and as SLOW as humanly possible. That is, you don’t want to place the whole of your hand and FIRMLY RUB HIS STOMACHE IN A RAPID SUCCESSION. No, doing that would probably make him need to visit the bathroom.

A better way to go about it would be to use the TIPS of your fingers and run them across the side of his chest ever so lightly, and do so slowly that you’re almost going backwards. That really captures the essence of what you’re trying to accomplish: letting his MIND wander ahead of the actual PHYSICAL stimulation.

So in you need to keep three things in your head: first is the right MINDSET which is to trigger his MIND with minimal stimulation to his PHYSICAL BODY. The second part is  to keep every physical stimulation as LIGHT as possible. Last but definitely not least do everything as SLOW as possible. Remember, slow IS sexy.

Now great foreplay is a fantastic way to boost your performance, but make sure you already have a firm grip on how to give head, or else you might not get him where you’re trying to take him…

Have you ever done something that you didn’t want to do?

Maybe it was your mom telling you that you have to clean your room.

Maybe it was your boss telling you that you have to finish a pile of work before you head home.

Maybe it was one of your friends that told you that you have to come to her party.

Suddenly, you feel a huge resistance to doing what they’ve requested. A knot forms in your stomach and while you might  get the ‘job’ done anyway, it has become just that: a job, and you won’t draw as much pleasure from it as you could have otherwise.

When talking about giving head, your boyfriend will most probably not tell you “you HAVE to give me a blowjob“, at least not out right. But you know that he really likes it and that he really wants it and even though you might not be thrilled to do it, you do it because you think he expects it.

By now you’re probably realizing the point I’m trying to make. Even though in this case he’s not telling you “you have to give me head”, in your head you are TELLING YOURSELF THAT YOU HAVE TO. And that is just as bad! You won’t be enjoying yourself, and that will show in how well you do!

So what’s the solution?

Really, you have three options.

First option is, you keep sucking him off without wanting to do it, which will definitely show. Worst option.

The second alternative is to stop. That’s right; stop. If you can’t at least let go of feeling like you “have to do it” then it’s actually better to stop than to keep giving him head, both for you and for him. Anything you do with a tainted energy will simply spread.

The third and best alternative, however, is to START ENJOYING YOURSELF.

How do you do it?

I’ll elaborate on that more tomorrow!

But why is it really that men love it when you swallow his load? Is it a side-effect of watching too much porn? Is it that it feels super pleasurable for him?

I’ve found that there are several reasons why guys love it when his sexual partner swallows his load;

• It’s a Sign of His Dominance. For some men, it’s a subtle sign of your submission if you swallow his load. This isn’t anything you need to worry about; it’s not demeaning or anything. Dominance/Submission is actually something that a lot of guys are turned on by (I’m going to discuss that more extensively in a future post!)
• It’s a Massive Compliment to His Ego. The biggest reason why he loves it so much is that it’s a huge way of telling him “I accept you in every way”.

So how do you swallow his load? Well, we have a little guide on swallowing semen actually! Check it out!

The article talks a little bit about the different positions and mentions some of the pros and cons of each. Some of the tips

I’ve already written about, like how to give a blowjob in the movie theaters and how to deep throat, but there are still some valuable tips there on for instance rimming (or the art of eating out an ass), a topic I haven’t talked about before.

But in order to get really good at giving head, you need to practice and get feedback.

And since all guys are different and enjoy different types of stimulation, that feedback is worth it’s weight in gold.

A great way to know if you’re moving in the right direction is simply to ask your man for comments.

Don’t make the questions too big, keep it simple like: “Do you prefer when I do this, or when I did that? ” or “Does this feel good?”.

Also, don’t swamp him with questions either. He wants a blowjob, not to conduct a survey. If you ask too many questions the whole thing will start to feel mechanic.

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While he might need to be in the mood to have sex, to get a blowjob he just needs to be breathing.

Use that fact and give him a blowjob when he’s least expecting it. Maybe just as he’s walking through the door after a long day at work or just after dinner when you “accidentally” drop something under the dinner tabe.

Use your imagination!

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Basically, it’s a day where you give your man a steak and a blowjob; the two things a stereotype man loves the most.

Now, if you missed the official steak and  blowjob day, there’s no need to sweat it; just pick a day and surprise your man. He’ll definitely appreciate it.

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