There are a couple of classic blowjob positions that you can use when you want to give your man head. In this post I’ll go through the top 5 positions.
- The Classic 69. In this positions you’ll lie on your as your partner stands on all four on top of you with his cock over your head and his head over your genitals. Great double action.
- The Star 69. Similar to the Classic 69, but instead of just laying flat on the bed, you push your legs back so your man can get full access to the whole area. If your man is feeling bold, he can do this as well.
- Standing Up. Another good classic is when the man is standing up and you’re on your knees while giving him a blowjob. This is good for two reasons; primarily, he’ll be able to watch, but also the standing up increases the blood flow to his genitals.
- The Dangler. A great blowjob position to use if you’re trying to learn how to deep throat. You lie on the bed with your head just dangling outside the bed Your man then stands right in front of your face and thrusts himself into you.
- You Kneeling, Him Sitting. He Sits down on a chair while you kneel down on the floor and start giving him a blowjob. This is a great blowjob positions since he can just sit back and enjoy the ride.
For more great tips, check out our blowjob tips and blowjob techniques.
A blowjob tip I’ve shared with you many times before is the fact that a man’s biggest erogenous zone is his mind.
The more you try to get his fantasy going and try to heighten his expectations, the more he’s going to enjoy whatever comes next.
That’s the main reason why dirty talking is such a great technique for really blowing his mind.
Dirty talking in it self is an art-form; it’s nothing you can teach in just a minute or so. But with just a few tips you can start practicing on your own!
- Take It Slowly. Don’t rush yourself. Remember, you’re not communicating because you need to get some information through; you’re communicating because you want to get him heated up, so take it slowly.
- Let Him Know What You’re Going to Do. If you can’t come up with anything sexy to tell him; just tell him what you want to do to him with a sexy voice.
- Fantasize and Exaggerate. Even though letting him know in advance what you’re going to do with him is a great tip, you can always take it another level and just tell him things that are sexy. Most of the times, he’s not going to expect you to do all the things you talked about, so just go wild.
- Roleplay. This, also, is an art-form. But roleplaying is a great way to push your sexual relationship to another level. How about pretending you’re a student and he’s a teacher. Or the other way around? Be creative and find something that works for you.
- Remember: Dirty talking is Only Going To Take Him So Far. Sure. Dirty talking can be an extreme turn on. But sooner or later, you’re going to get to a point where physical stimulation is the only thing that matters. Just go with the flow when that happens and let the words translate into action. For more tips on that, check out the article on blowjob tips.
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May 4, 2009 by
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Deep throating is when you take in all of your man into your mouth. Since the an average penis is about 15 cm and the oral cavity is only about 10 cm, you take him into your throat instead.
A problem with deep throating has been that people start trying to do it too early on. While it should be considered to be an “advanced” technique, some young females feel the pressure to perform and sort of mentally burn them selves out.
If you’re new to oral sex and haven’t really learned how to give a blowjob yet, then I suggest you check out our blowjob guide, the list of blowjob tips and blowjob techniques first as they contain a whole bunch of great info for you to get started with.
In this guide I’m going to go through the A to Z of how to deep throat.
How To Deep Throat: Learning Not To Gag
The biggest part of learning how to deep throat is learning not to gag. While this may seem easy, it’s really a skill that needs to be worked on before you actually become good at it.
The main part of unlearning the gag-reflex is to apply will power. If you just keep working on it then eventually it will let go. But that’s not very helpful; so I’m going to share with you two of my favourite tips on getting over the gag reflex.
- Start Swallowing When You Feel The Gag Reflex. When I say “start swallowing” what I mean is, start making the same motions as you would when you’re about to swallow something. This will alleviate a part of the gag-sensation.
- Pull Him In With Your Tongue. The second tip I wanted to share with you is to pull him in with your tongue. specifically, when you have him inside you and you feel you can’t take him in further, just extend your tongue and pretend like you’re pulling him further in with your tongue. This is good for two reasons; it will get into your head (power of attraction!) but also, the movement actually opens up your throat and will make it easier for him to slide into your throat.
- Take It Slowly. Don’t rush yourself; learning how to deep throat takes time. The biggest mistake most women do when it comes to deep throating is that they rush themselves into it. Some have seen pornographic videos or have boyfriends that are overly eager and get persuaded that “that’s how it’s done”. It’s not. Don’t aim to perform like a pornstar the first, second or even the tenth time you’re deep throating; you’ll just end up hurting yourself!
This is a work in project. I’ll be adding more and more stuff as we go. If you’re looking for some general info, check out the guide on how to give a blowjob.
Something that I didn’t mention in my beginners guide on how to give a blowjob was that you should be aware that his balls are super sensitive.
I’m saying this because when you’re lying there, at least in the beginning, you’re going to be fidgeting and turning around trying to find the best position to blow his mind.
In such a situation, it’s easy to misplace an elbow or to support your body with one of your hands in the wrong place.
Now, he’ll definitely let you know that something is wrong so you don’t have to worry that he’ll keep it to himself. But pain streaming out of his testicular area can be a major turn off for most men.
It’s not that they don’t want to be sexual mentally, it’s just that the pain pulsating through their groin is ten times as “loud” as everything else.
In the last post I talked a little about why you should never use your teeth when you give a blowjob.
This is of course a truth with a modification; there’s actually a time and place for using your teeth as well, but if you’re new to giving head then don’t even worry about this as it will only confuse you.
In any case, here’s how to give a blowjob with teeth:
- First you need to get him properly heated up before you do this. Do whatever you normally do to get him going (Inspiration: How To Give Great Head).
- When he has properly heated up, hold your head just above the head of his penis. Put your teeth over his head and slowly open your mouth and let his penis slide into your mouth. Slowly open up your mouth more and more as you go over his penis.
- You want this sliding to be a SLIGHT GRAZE not a FULL ON SCRAPE. Also, make sure you properly lubricate to avoid any unnecessary wearing and tearing.
A mistake that I keep hammering on over and over again is the fact that you should never use your teeth during a blowjob. His penis is really sensitive and with the repetetive motion that you do during a blowjob, even the smallest graze quickly becomes a source of great discomfort.
The easiest way to rid yourself of this problem is just to tuck your teeth in under your lips. The problem is not to tuck them in, but rather to remember to keep them there during the whole blowjob. It’s easy to forget after a few moments why you’re doing it, but as with everything practice gives experience.
And I know some of you are going “But I’ve heard some guys like it when you use your teeth”. That’s a completely different thing; using your teeth as a conscious blowjob technique is definitely not the same thing as unconsciously grinding over his cock.
But more on this in the next post.
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April 29, 2009 by
Patrick in
Semen. Sperm. The great white juice. It’s probably one of the most talked about topics since oral sex became popular in the western world. Swallow, don’t swallow, what are you supposed to do with it? Is swallowing semen derogatory towards women? Is swallowing sperm dangerous?
There are a whole heap of questions that revolve around this little white fluid. I’ve already talked a little about swallowing semen in my article on blowjob tips, but I thought I’d address all of your other questions here.
If you have any other questions, just send me a comment and I’ll go through them in a future post or article.
Is Semen Safe?
Semen doesn’t carry any diseases per say, and as long as your man is not carrying any sexually transmitted diseases then swallowing his load is completely safe. Semen does however contain a whole lot of different nutrients, so if you’re super allergic to something specifically then you might want to be on your guard if it’s the first time you’re swallowing his load.
If you’re unsure to whether or not your man is carrying any STDs, the safest thing to do is either NOT to swallow his load, or to swallow it quickly. You’re posed the biggest risk if you let the semen just stay in your mouth. This is because when you suck his cock it will create tiny (unnoticable) abrasions in your mouth cavity that increase the risk of catching something.
Another thing that women usually forget, especially those who are just learning how to give head, is that his balls are EXTREMELY sensitive.
Now, this can be either good news or bad news. It’s good news if you decide to play with them as well. They like being kissed, licked and played with. They enjoy the stimulation, and he’ll enjoy it as well. There are some great blowjob techniques you can use for this.
It’s bad news if you forget the fact that they’re *super sensitive* and accidentally crush them with your elbow or something.
It’s a typical rookie mistake, so make sure you dont do it when you’re trying to give the guy good head.
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April 28, 2009 by
Patrick in
There are a lot of you that still are for some reason looking for more information on how to give a blowjob that will make your man explode with pleasure.
That is exactly why I’ve written this article. I’ve already written a great introductory article on how to give great head and list of great techniques for a blowjob but in this article I wanted to focus on some concerns you might have when you’re just starting out.
What If I Don’t Like The Taste Or Smell?
Just like women, men will both taste and smell a little more if they haven’t showered in a while. So if you’re sensitive to that kind of thing, you could always ask your man to clean up a little before you get jiggy with it.
What Do I Do With His Sperm?
The next common concern a lot of “newbies” have is that they’re almost a little worried about what they’re supposed to do with the semen.
If you’ve never tasted semen, it’s got a pretty neutral but at the same time a very distinct, salty taste. Most women that don’t like semen don’t actually complain about the taste but rather about the consistency of it. Depending on what type of diet your man follows and how much fluids he takes in on a daily basis, his load can be more or less viscous. Here’s a little information on swallowing semen.
Beginner’s Guide to Giving a Blowjob
I know a lot of you are new to this, so I’m going to give you a basic run through on how to give a blowjob. If you want more detailed info, check out the guide on how to give head, as well as the list of blowjob tips and techniques.
- Study up. Reading this guide as well as some of the other guides on this site will give you a better understanding of what to do, and more importantly How to do it. It will help you smooth out the whole process as well as give you some guidance. If nothing else, it’s a great source of inspiration…
- Get Comfortable. A sore neck is never a turn on. When you’re going to give him head, make sure you find a good position for you both. The best positions for giving head include
- Him lying on his back, you lying in between his legs. This is a good position as he’ll be able to relax completely, as well as letting you control the package all for yourself.
- Him standing up / sitting in a chair, you on your knees. Even though he might not be able to relax as much, this is a great position for him since he’ll be able to to watch you while you work (guy’s love to watch).
- Start Him Up. Sometimes just “jumping” on him can be nice. But for a better effect, I suggest you start out slowly and let him enjoy himself. It’s like warming up before going out to run. Of course you can start running right away, but it’s going to feel much better if you start slowly. Kiss him, lick him and tug him all around his body, get the juices flowing.
- Open Your Mouth. Slide your lips over you teeth to avoid painful contact. Make sure you lubricate his cock properly with your saliva as it will feel great for him, and it will alleviate any type of scuffing later on when you get your hands dirty. Slide over his cock.
- Be Imaginative. Giving a great blowjob is more than just going up and down repeatedly. Experiment a little; there are a lot of different ways to stimulate your man. Kiss, lick, tug, pull, bite (cautiously though); try it all out. Just remember to keep checking his body language for signs to show if he’s enjoying himself or not.
- Hands On. By gripping his *lubed up* (remeber this, otherwise you’ll end up wearing him out) manhood with your hand, you can give him loads more pleasure and take some of the weight off of your mouth. Wrap it around his cock and let your hand follow your mouth. Your mouth can now focus on more important things, the head of his penis for instance.
- Finish the Job. Ultimately, it’s your decision whether or not you want to swallow his load. Some women do it without even thinking about it, others cringe at the mere thought. In the end, just do what you’re most comfortable with. The amount is small, only a teaspoon or so, so it shouldn’t be that big of a problem. Whatever you do, just don’t stop midway.
Deep-Throating, What’s That?
For those of you who are new to this, deep-throating is when you take your man’s cock all the way into your mouth. It is called deep throating because anatomically speaking, unless your man is cursed in that department, you can’t fit the whole length of his penis in just your mouth but you will need to open up your throat and allow him to enter there.
It sounds more dramatic than it is, but if oral sex is new to you, I suggest you ignore deep-throating for now and just focus on doing all of the other things that make a blowjob great.
The biggest rookie mistake I’ve encountered is using teeth. I know it’s easy to forget it, but you’re holding one of his most prised possessions in your mouth; try to be careful! You’ll never learn how to give great head if you don’t stop doing this.
It’s an easy fix really: Just tuck your teeth in under your lips, and you’re done.
The hard part is to remember it; it’s easy to forget to tuck the lips in, and even if it’s just for a second, he’ll feel it. So keep reminding yourself to keep the old swords sheathed.
Also, check out our mini-guide on how to give head for more blowjob tips!
